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My Thoughts on the Brett Favre’s "Penis Pix" (and why it’s a Bad Idea!)

I thought it was about time I finally jump on the whole Brett Favre “Penis Pix” bandwagon. Here’s MY advice to Brett Favre, and also some reasons why you you should avoid sending them in general! Your COMMENTS are welcome below 🙂

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3 Easy Ways to Get Approached More!

istock_000006752910xsmall3 Things to do to Get you Approached More!

(These are MUST-Do’s in Bars, Clubs, Coffee shops – Anywhere!)


Act like you’re having fun when you’re out and in the presence of men, and especially when around a man you’re interested in. This may sound like a no-brainer to some of you, but believe me, there is a reason why I put this at #1 and it’s because the majority of women don’t even do this one simple act when they’re in the presence of men or in a public venue. You MUST be smiling. Smile, act confident, make eye-contact and gaze at him (on and off), and keep your arms open or to your side (but not crossed).

Women often don’t realize that when they are feeling scared, nervous or out of their comfort zone, they often look angry or irritated and completely unapproachable. And guess what? When you’re not smiling and not looking approachable, guess what? Men will conclude that you’re “unapproachable” and – surprise – not approach you.

They’ll look to other women who look friendlier and more open. Relax and fake friendliness and confidence, even if you don’t feel it. Only then will he consider approaching you. Talk and laugh with your friends, laugh into your cell phone with a friend, even smile if you are reading (so he’ll wonder why). You want to send the message that you are fun and have an awesome life full of wonderful friends that he might like to be a part of.

Don’t sit or stand there with a flat look on your face “looking cool” or waiting for him to approach you. Again, he’ll think you’re unapproachable or cold.

And believe you me, men have their own little system for determining whether a girl is worth it to approach or not. They are observing you before you even notice them and realize it, because they are evaluating whether or not the odds are in their favor of having a positive approach, if they muster up the courage to do it. They don’t want to get shot down and risk looking like a fool. So, they look at the following factors:

1) Your physical appearance,

2) Whether you’re smiling and look friendly, and

3) How you treat OTHER guys!

Yes, this last one is a very important one, albeit unknown to many women. If you get approached by other guys that you are NOT interested in, or other guys try to chat you up that you aren’t interested in, but you’re mean to them or diss them or don’t give them the time of day, Guess what? The guys that you WOULD be interested in that are waiting in the wings deciding if they’re going to approach you are not?  You just lost your chance with them.

They see that, and determine that you’re a biotch and must not want to talk to any guys, or you have a boyfriend… so they’ll walk away and set their sites on a different girl who has a better attitude and a smile, and who they conclude they’ll have “better odds” with.

So the moral here is, there may always be a man watching you, and it may just be the man of your dreams – so always be friendly, nice and respectful to ALL guys who approach and talk to you, even if he’s a whale or nerd and you’re totally not interested in him.

You can still be polite and politely tell him that you’re not interested, but thank you – rather than coldly shooting him down. Because not only is this just better man-Karma for you all around if you’re nice and friendly to everyone, but you’ll be getting approached a lot more by men you ARE interested in. So wipe that scowl off your face and mind your Ps & Qs!

2). Act “Available.”

Project Open & Available Body Language. Give him several “Windows of opportunities,” as I like to call them, to approach you. Be approachable, not only in attitude, but literally.

Men don’t want to (and often will not) come over to you and your girlfriends when you’re huddled together in a group. And especially will not if there are some male friends lingering around the group as well – (How are men supposed to know if those guys are your boyfriends, husbands, or what??)

The risk of rejection is very high for them in those situations and over the years they’ve built up a resistance toward walking over to you and your girlfriends, especially when the guy is solo. So when you see a guy you like, you must be able to break away from your friends and give him that chance to come over to you.

It’s kind of like code for “okay, I’m making it easier for you, come get me now.” So when you’re out with your friends, family, or whatever… find a reason to move about the venue ALONE.

For example – you can casually walk past him to go get a drink from the bar by yourself, or “go to the bathroom” and take the long way to the bathroom (a route that is in his peripheral vision), break away from the group, pretend you have to take a call and walk outside, but whatever you do when you break away, you want to smile and look over at him as you do…

Make sure you hold his eye contact for a second, and when you do, he will usually get your “window of opportunity” that you’re giving him. Also when you walk past him, you’ll want to look your best of course, keep your head high & confident and walk with a bit of a sexy, feminine ‘strut’. At that point, he should take the cue to come over to you.

If he doesn’t, you could try one more time, just to make sure. You have nothing to lose anyway, but in the event that he just didn’t see you the first time, then you won’t have any regrets. (NOTE – you want to be subtly ‘available,’ but not ‘desperate’ though – there’s a difference.)

Or another little trick that I use that works almost every time, is nonchalantly walk by him and innocently “bump” into him lightly, then look up at him and say, “Oh I’m sorry about that,” in a playful way and with a big smile, lots of eye contact and a playful look on your face. When he turns around, if he says “Hi” or anything else or tries to continue the conversation, stay and keep talking! Ask him what his name is or tell him he looks familiar (“Hey, were you at Kelly’s BBQ a few weekends ago?” – works great.) Or point to his drink and say, “Oh that looks interesting, what is that?” And that could help get the conversation going too.(God if I were a guy I’d be such a sleaze, Lol)

If you’ve tried a few attempts and you’re being smiley and cute and he’s not taking the bait, then you can try one last attempt just to make sure you’ve covered your bases in case he is just ultra-shy, and then confidently walk away.

If a guy is single, and you pull this move, and he’s remotely interested, he will more than likely take the cues and try to continue talking to you. He’ll feel lucky that a cool girl just literally ‘bumped into him’ and will want to take advantage of that. But if he doesn’t respond, then he probably either has a girlfriend already or just thinks you aren’t his type for whatever reason, which is fine because not everyone is everyone’s cup of tea, at which point you just walk away and move on to another person. That’s a very easy, no-brainer move that works, so try it out!

Remember, you need to put yourself out on the line a little bit in order to get approached by guys, in order to get lots of dates, and in order to get BIG rewards. You can’t leave it all up to men to scope you out, talk to you, ask you out, etc. They need a little help, they need you to throw some bait out at them.

The girls who get the most guys and dates all the time are the girls who are great at throwing out bait, lots of smiles and eye-contacts, “bumps” and friendliness, and they are the girls who catch a heck of a lot of guys. By throwing out bait, l you’ve got to accept the fact that not everyone is going to take it all of the time there’s going to be some guys that won’t.

But you’ve got to be able to deal with that fact with an upbeat, win-win attitude of “Oh well, I’ll just move onto another guy” rather than letting it get you down and depressed. It’s a numbers game, and the more bait you throw out there, the more fish you’re going to catch. That’s just a fact. If you’re not willing to put yourself out there at all, you’re going to go home a loser every time and not have any return. You’ll never regret doing something. But you’ll always regret NOT doing something. Every guy in the room, or anywhere you go, could potentially be your Mr. Right!

3. Make good Eye Contact!

This is SO important. How is a guy to come over to you or even be motivated to want to, if you’re not even making eye contact with him!

When you notice a guy looking at you, look back at him. Make eye contact with him and hold his gaze for a second. Then look away for a few seconds, and look at him again. Do NOT look away or look down when you see a guy is looking at you (unless you’re totally uninterested in him).

Do not get flustered or embarrassed if a guy is looking at you. Confidently hold his gaze, and look back at him. And as you’re doing so, it helps to visualize yourself shooting a surge of positive, sexy energy from your eyes to his; Like a beam of light.

Thinking this will actually do just that, and you’ll be exuding a positive, sexy energy and a sparkle in your eyes that will lure him to come and talk to you. Practice this visualization. It works.

Cheers and Good Luck ladies!

Love, DeAnna

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VIDEO: Brad Womack the next Bachelor? DeAnna's thoughts

I can’t believe ABC’s choice for the new BachelorBrad Womack?? I mean, really? Wow, real high standards you got there ABC. Ugh… Watch my video to hear my little rant on this (sorry, got a little heated) and my dating advice.

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