Guys, want to crack the woman-code for whether a girl is really into you or not? Don’t fret, I’ve got your back. Don’t fall into the trap of being used or strung along as “just friends!” If you have a hard time decoding a woman’s true intentions, I’ve come up with a handy little list for you of some tell-tale signs that a woman is just using you, or otherwise is NOT into you for anything romantic or sexual. Read and watch, guys. And I always invite you to share comments or questions below, or shoot me an email!
The 6 Signs…
1. She often flakes on you or reschedules plans (especially if she doesn’t usually offer up an alternative time to get together).
2. She doesn’t seem like she wants to be ALONE with you or do anything “romantic” with you. Maybe she suggests inviting friends whenever you suggest doing something alone, or she scoffs at your ideas to plan things that are more romantic.
3. She asks you to DO things frequently for her, or do favors for her; like loaning her money, feeding her cat, copying off your homework, hooking her up with nightclub passes, etc… And she isn’t as willing to do the same for you.
4. She won’t sleep with you and avoids kissing you or getting physical. Maybe she makes up excuses why she can’t (“I have a headache” is a classic one) or finds other ways of conveniently skee-daddling out of your romantic/physical overtures.
5. She is hot and cold. Some days she’s being affectionate, complimenting you and buttering you up, telling you how great you are, and then other times she is cold and distant. And often the times when she’s nice and affectionate, it’s conveniently when she wants something…
6. She calls you a lot to talk or vent or cry, or just to kill time, and you’re there for her. But whenever you talk to her about dating or taking your relationship to the next level, or ask her what her feelings are about you, she tries to avoid a discussion or she says she likes you but she is just “confused” and “doesn’t want to rush anything.” (On a side-note, NEVER let a girl talk to you about ANOTHER guy!)
Have you seen these signs with girls you’ve been into before? Share your experiences & feedback below!
Best of Luck, Tigers!
DeAnna Lorraine is a San Diego dating coach and American’s #1 female Dating expert & attraction guru.