Do you not seem to be getting the kind of men that you really WANT?
Are you not getting 2nd or 3rd dates – or committed relationships – with the guys that you’re really interested in?
Are you a smart, successful woman of substance who has it all together but you feel like you get passed up a lot for the young bubbly Barbie Doll?
What’s the DEAL here, and what can you do?
You’re a great person with a lot to offer, WHY are these men not seeing that?
Well, here’s one major place to look – How is your APPEARANCE and FIRST Impression on your Date?
Your Appearance, Image and First Impression may be what’s been primarily holding you back from attracting the guys that you really deserve.
Like it or hate it, it’s a FACT of nature: All Men are VISUAL creatures! That’s just the way they were wired from millions of years ago and they were wired that way for the purpose of reproduction and survival.
And WHAT all men are powerfully attracted to at the most primal level are women that exhibit a high level of: Femininity, Beauty, Youthfulness, & Health. (I can go into the longer version of why this is at another time)
What sparks a Man’s initial interest in a woman is SEXUAL ATTRACTION…
What keeps it going for the long-haul is Compatibility.
But, he will look for the compatibility only later after he knows he is truly sexually attracted to you.
So a man’s brain (and penis!) will either light UP when he sees you… or nothing will happen, and if nothing happens, then he just ISN’T going to date you.
Do NOT make the mistake of thinking or hoping that you can get a man to want to date you or fall in love with you based mainly on your hilarious sense of humor, your Mensa-level intelligence, your amazing success, income or accomplishments, or your really SWEET and loving, big heart.
Sorry to break the news to you sister, he just won’t.
And also, if you’re one of those women who tries to come off really CONSERVATIVE and basically Asexual – totally “buttoned up” both physically and energetically – and essentially closing off any sign of you being a sensual women who is capable of having sex because you want to make sure you’re not “putting it out there” and you want to prevent your date from (God forbid!) thinking about sleeping with you or lusting over you…
Well That won’t work either!
You shut off all your natural womanly sensuality, and that’s just what you’ll get in return – a platonic guy FRIEND who is unable to feel sexually attracted to you.
Many women, especially very driven, successful career women I encounter in my coaching practice are like this at first – very “closed off” & uncomfortable with putting out any kind of sensual or sexual vibe.
“A man should not be thinking about that while he’s getting to know me!”
She might think. And so she “wraps it all up,” so to speak.
And I also know many women who relate to themselves as more of a “TOM-BOY.”
They’re always hanging out as one of the guys, they love their sports and recreational softball team… they love their beer and hate girly drinks, and they can’t stand heels or cute dresses…
Then, they scratch their heads and wonder why they’re 35 years old and still single – and can’t seem to keep a man interested in them romantically.
Well if you fall into any one of those categories, here’s what I have to say to you:
Stop being Weird! Stop pretending like you’re not a sexual human being with a vagina!
Stop resisting the fact that men are attracted to pretty women who look good and smell nice!
Stop pretending like guys aren’t thinking about sex when they’re on a date with you and it isn’t an important factor in their ability to feel attraction for you, because it IS!
Just STOP resisting it!
And start acting, looking and dressing like a feminine WOMAN on your dates.
Just because you’re wearing a cute dress, some heels and you delicious perfume doesn’t mean a man’s going to jump across the table and molest you or something. LOl.
But when you look hot, there’s just a high percentage that he’ll think you’re hot and he’ll be ATTRACTED to you.
And yes, that’s what you WANT.
You don’t want to go to the extreme and look like a skank of course; Tastefully pretty is always the way to go – but you DO want to dress cute enough in outfits that fit well on your womanly curves, and ideally wear a dress/skirt and high heels.
Because when he first looks at you, he’ll be looking for whether that attraction “switch” jumps on or stays put, so you’ll want him to think, “WOW, she’s hot!” (And this goes for guys of any age, it never changes 🙂
Because if he thinks you’re attractive when you first walk in, he will already like you and WANT to like you,
so he will already be looking for positive things in you throughout the date to try to keep reaffirming his first image of you being an attractive woman that he should keep seeing –
And he won’t be looking for negative things or flaws in you – or, he’ll typically be more forgiving of them at least.
You’ll just have the odds of him wanting to see you again higher and stacked in your favor if he’s already physically/sexually attracted to you.
So ladies, I hope that makes more sense as to why it’s SO important that you doll yourself up and make an awesome, attractive First Impression on your dates and interactions with men, and why it can ruin your chances with great guys if you don’t.
And I hope you also now know the value of looking attractive and a little sexy, and acting like a WOMAN!
**We go much more into depth developing your attraction and dating skills with men and unleashing you inner Femininity in my Women’s Date Coaching programs & upcoming Weekend Attraction Bootcamps. If you’re interested in finding out what’s been standing in the way between you and having the relationship of your dreams – and you want to manifest YOUR Soulmate this year – Submit this brief “Dating Needs Assessment”, and we’ll schedule a time to talk!
your Friend & Partner in Relationship Success,
DeAnna Lorraine 🙂