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Do you Scare Men off by trying to “Micro-Manage” your Relationships with Them?

dating coachAre you a Woman who’s guilty of being “The Manager” with the Men you date?

In other words… Do you tend to be the one who initiates the dates with guys that you meet? Or you try to plan the dates, move them along, plan out the details for the dates like what restauraunt you’ll go to, what you’ll do and when you’ll be meeting up next?

Do you take matters into you own hands when you haven’t heard from him in-between dates, and give him a call or text so you can see what’s up for the weekend and make plans for your next date, rather than waiting around for him to call? Do you take it upon yourself to let him know what your feeling about him and try to move the relationship along efficiently or prompt him to progress things more seriously with you?

If any or all of this sounds like you, my fierce power women friends, you are guilty of being “The Manager” in your relationships with men! And although I’m sure you mean well and your intentions are good, this behavior just doesn’t work with guys (for most guys at least) and usually ends up running them off and leaving you baffled as to what you did wrong. This just happened with a female client of mine yesterday so I wanted to write a post about it because it’s so common with successful, smart women.

Women who are in managerial or powerful positions in their careers, such as Attorneys, Business owners or high-level Executives or managers, are usually the women who are most prone to acting this way in their dating lives – so it should come as no surprise that this is the demographic of women that I work with the most and that often have a lot of challenges with attracting men. They often try to “manage” the guys that they’re interested in as if they were a project with deadlines and goals!

It’s understandable – You’re driven, organized and assertive and you know how to get things done! You’re a pro at making things happen and getting results. You run your life and careers in this efficient and organized way and you are great at achieving your goals and being successful because of it! I know because I am one of those women. So you think you can go about dating the same managerial kind of way.

Your goal is a committed relationship with a man, and you want to orchestrate it so that you can get to that goal as quickly and efficiently as possible. You’re not a girl who waits around for things to happen, you take action on what you want and you make things happen, whether that’s picking up the phone to call your guy for a 2nd and 3rd date, prompting him for “status updates” on how he feels about your and where you guys stand, or putting together the plans or asking him when you’re going to meet his parents. Basically acting as if a committed relationship with him were a sales goal that you’re eagerly trying to close!

But what you have to understand is that a relationship with a man has to cultivate organically, naturally, and largely at the pace of the man, in order for it to be lasting and successful. Guys move at their own pace and often it’s a little slower than the women’s. But they want to be the ones who are leading the progression of the relationship; They want to feel like they are the ones “hunting” you in a way, and that it’s their idea and desire to be in a relationship with you.

If you as a woman is the one who tries to initiate everything and push him along the relationship, he is going to likely feel pressured and forced, and resent you for it. By you trying to steer the relationship and & progress things along before he does, he’s not only going to feel like you’re too desperate and eager which will lower your perceived value, but he will feel like your feelings are stronger and deeper for him than his are for you and it will cause him to pull away and take a step back, so he can evaluate his feelings for you.

This will usually result in a lopsided relationship if anything, where it will be a constant cycle of you pressuring him to get more serious and committed, trying to convince him to feel more strongly about you, and him pulling away and getting distant from you.

Whereas if you let the guy come to his own conclusions about his feelings for you, and on his own time, and you let him have the chance to progress things along with you before you try to beat him to it, you will get a man who appreciates you a lot more and is much more committed because he’ll feel like his feelings and ideas about committing to you were HIS own, not yours being pushed onto him. When a man feels pushed or pressured into a relationship he will usually just shut down and pull away… And re-evaluate things.

So as hard as it may be for an assertive go-getting kind of woman like you to let go of the reigns, you’ve GOT to resist the urge to micro-manage the relationship in your efforts to progress it along and let the man take more of the lead here, at his pace & initiation.

Of course you should be letting him know you’re interested and into him and be enthusiastic on your dates and communication with him, because if he’s into you that will be the fuel that causes him to move things along with you and pursue a relationship on his own. But leave your Type-A Manager hat at the office, be a little patient, focus on attracting him rather than “selling” him or steering him and you will end up with a much more committed and interested man who wholeheartedly wants to be with you! 

Good luck and let me know how it goes! xo, DeAnna

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DeAnna Lorraine is a San Diego Dating Coach and Dating expert


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Are you Frustrated with your Dating Results, And You can’t seem to meet any QUALITY People?

  • Are you tired of “LOSING” in your Dating & Love life?

  • Do you keep dating the “wrong” people, and winding up in the wrong, dead-end relationships?

  • Do you feel like you just can’t seem to find any “good,” HIGH-QUALITY people out there that you’re interested in –and the only ones that you ARE interested in aren’t interested in YOU?

  • Do your relationships with men just seem to fall FLAT – You start dating a good guy, you think everything is going great – but then he suddenly disappears, goes distant on you, or gives you the old “I really like you, BUT… I’m just not ready for a relationship or commitment right now…”

  • Do you seem to have a track record of women breaking up with you, cheating on you, or giving you the same old “You’re a nice guy BUT… I just want to be Friends” routine?

  • Does your lack of experience with the opposite sex hold you back and keep you from dating & from having successful romantic relationships?

  • OR, Do you think of yourself as an altogether pretty great catch who is smart, successful and attractive – but you just haven’t been able to find & attract that one amazing person who is a perfect match for you to spend the rest of your life with??

Well if any of this sounds like you at all, the end result is still the same – your dating & love life as it stands right now is not where you’d like it to be. You probably thought you’d be blissfully in the relationship of your dreams by now, or enjoying a delicious, passionate marriage with your Soulmate.

I understand how frustrating it feels being single and watching your friends get married and coupled off one by one, seeing other people around you in happy relationships, and feeling like your own love life is not making much progress and you’re starting to wonder if you ever will find love.

If you were given the chance, would you love to just want to cut through all the BS of dating and get yourself an amazing love life as quickly as possible? Well I want to help you finally start WINNING in your love life and get you the delicious dating life or dream relationship that you know you were meant to have! That, my friend is the stuff that makes life truly worth living.

My name is DeAnna Lorraine, I’m a Dating & Relationship Coach, and I solve your biggest problems with DATING & Relationships – And help you find “The One.”

Click HERE to Take the Free “Dating & Relationship Needs Assessment” & Sign up for your Complimentary 30-Minute Dating Strategy Call over the phone to discuss your current love life & learn more about my Date Coaching program for men or women looking to greatly enhance their Dating & Relationship Success.

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Why do I keep Attracting the Wrong Guys? New Video!

In this week’s Down & Dirty Dating Tips Video for Women, I break down for you the biggest reasons why you keep attracting the wrong guys and relationships that don’t work out – And what you can do about it! If want to enroll in or learn more about my Women’s Date Coaching private or group coaching program, or my upcoming women’s Weekend Workshops, go here to fill out the free Dating & Relationship Needs Assessment and I’ll get right back to you with more info or schedule a call to chat. : )

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MEN’s Dating & Attraction Workshop 2/24: Register Now!

DeAnna’s “Deliciously Date-able Man” Seminar: Mastering the Art of Dating & Attracting Women is an intensive weekend training seminar for men, limited to only 10 men maximum, in order to get the maximum experience and one-on-one support from myself. Reserve your seat to this exclusive course now, they are filling up fast!


This is an incredible experience & investment that will change your results with women, for life!

Weekend Seminar Details

In this information-packed, 3-Day course, I’m going to show you the BEST ways to meet, date, and attract women, and especially, beautiful, intelligent, high-quality women. YOU will be the one that gets her!

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~ Seminar Agenda ~

Day 1: Friday: 4pm-7pm

“Mindset Shift Day”

Introduction & Overview of what’s to come for the weekend

Part I. Understanding WOMEN & The Female Mind: Women’s Psychology & Attraction 101

  • Common Myths & Misconceptions about Women, and the REAL Facts

  • The Fatal Dating Mistakes most men make that keep them in the “Friend Zone”

  • What it is to be a “Real MAN” in the art of attracting quality women

  • Adopting the Mindset of a truly Confident, Attractive, “Deliciously Date-able” Alpha Male

Day 2: Saturday: 10AM – 5PM

~ Refreshments & light Snacks included ~

Part II: Developing & Solidifying Total Core Confidence and “Inner Game”

  • Together we will identify & overcome your Limiting Beliefs & “Blocks” within your “Inner Game” that have been preventing you from successfully attracting & dating women
  • We will go over each of the critical components within your “Inner Game” and improve every area so that your Inner Game, Confidence, Self-Image is rock-solid and set up for you to be effortlessly attracting & dating the women that you want

Part III: Developing & Strengthening Your “Outer Game”

  • Together we will identify & overcome your “Blocks” within your Physical, or “Outer Game” that have been preventing you from successfully attracting & dating women
  • We will go over each of the critical components within your “Outer Game,” such as your Physical Appearance, Style & Wardrobe, Personality, Communication & Social Skills, Verbal & Non-Verbal Communication & Behaviors, Social Life, and more, and develop your entire “Package” so that you are making a powerful impression and women will instantly categorize you as a “High-Status,” Attractive, Sexy and Desirable guy that they want to sleep with and DATE! It’s all about the image that you are projecting to women, and that image will either have women instantly categorizing you as just a “Friend,” OR it will have women instantly perceiving you as a romantic and sexual interest. After we’ve improved all the major components in your “Outer Game,” you will forever change the way that women perceive you and respond to you; You will be that guy who always gets the girl and fires off their attraction triggers.
  • We will strengthen your “Alpha Male” traits & Sexy Masculine Presence – another key shift that will allow you to attract women much more easily and effortlessly

Part IV: Mastering the APPROACH:

  • Approach Mastery! Together we will have you overcoming your Approach Anxiety and eliminate any lingering fears you have about approaching, communicating with, and asking out women. You will learn my proven Approaching Strategies & easy Conversation Formulas that I teach in my private coaching programs, which will enable you to approach any woman, anytime, anywhere, and always know what to say to spark their attraction, ask them out, and get the dates! You will also be practicing these approaching & conversational strategies FIRST-HAND outside of the Seminar on Saturday NIGHT in our “Night-on-the-Town” outing, where I will personally take you guys out to some local hotspots in San Diego to help you apply everything you’ve learned and show you in action exactly how it’s done! This evening outing alone is priceless and well-worth the cost of the seminar, as the live training you’ll receive from me will help you integrate all these skills and rapidly accelerate your mastery of approaching.

**Saturday NIGHT: 9:30pm – Midnight: Night-on-the-Town Live Approach Training Session!

A “Field Training” Session where I will take you guys out on the town to some local Hotspots in San Diego where you will be practicing your approaching & conversational strategies FIRST-HAND in the ‘Real world.’ I will be your Wing-Girl for the night, helping you apply & practice everything you’ve learned in the areas of approaching & conversations and show you in action exactly how it’s done! This evening outing alone is priceless and well-worth the cost of the seminar, as the live training you’ll receive from me will help you integrate all these skills and rapidly accelerate your mastery of approaching.

Day 3: Sunday: 10AM – 5PM

~ Refreshments & light Snacks included ~

Part V:

  • ADVANCED Approaching & Conversational Skills: We will discuss your experiences and feedback from our Night-on-the-Town, overcome common objections & obstacles to successfully approaching women, and learn additional strategies and techniques that will have you strengthening the success of your approaches, improving the quality of your conversations, and getting more Phone #s and Dates.

  • Dating STRATEGY: You will create your personal “Dating Game Plan” which will include both online & offline strategies, methods and places for you to be easily meeting lots of women in your life and daily routine. Your Dating Game Plan will WHERE and HOW you will be meeting the kinds of women that are your type on a regular basis, and enable you to have a full “Pipeline” of women and dates!


By 4pm on Sunday, You will officially be a Confident, Attractive, “Deliciously Date-able Man!

~ Tickets ~

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