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10 New Years Dating Resolutions for White Guys (and Gals ;)!

10 New Years Dating Resolutions for White Guys

As we enter into a fresh new year, 2017, there’s some things that I think ALL single daters can do better in 2017 (the “White Guys” was obviously just a joke made in reference to the recent ridiculous MTV video 🙂 As a Dating & Relationship Coach and Matchmaker who’s on the ground floor working with single guys and women every day, and experiencing the “Dating Apocalypse” first hand personally, I am privy to the biggest issues that have come about as a result of this – caused especially by dating apps like Tinder and Bumble.

So here you go, 10 New Year’s Relationship Resolutions for ALL Guys & Gals

#1: Guys, just make the first move and ask a woman out! 

It’s not that hard. Dating right now in the “Dating Apocalypse” is already complicated and confusing enough. So let’s just make things really easy, less confusing, and less complicated. The dating app “Bumble” really threw a wrench into things by switching up traditional roles and making the female in charge of messaging the guys first.

But then it created this weird landscape where guys are expecting the woman to not only message them first, but apparently ask them out and plan a date also.

online dating tipsAnd this dynamic has even spread to all the other dating apps outside of Bumble, causing women to feel like they are the ones that have to pursue the guy, or else nothing happens. I’ve seen a dramatic change in guys’ behavior on these apps – the most notable being that many guys have gotten downright lazy and don’t put any effort into meeting offline.

I’m sorry if this sounds old-school, but I believe that some things are just better left to traditional practices and roles, and this is one of them. If guys just continue to assume that traditional role of asking the girl out on the date, and planning the first date – even if you met on Bumble – then everything will just move along much faster and easier!

You will actually GO on more dates and meet more people “in the flesh”… And Isn’t that what everyone wants?

Plus, is it really that much of a burden and that much effort to say “hey, let’s meet in person over a drink, what’s your schedule like this week?” and plan a freakin’ cocktail date?!

#2: Ladies, if a guy DOES asks you out, stop pulling a Houdini and going MIA after.

I hear the complaint constantly from my male clients and other men that they’ll be talking to a girl, ask her out, and then – poof! She disappears. And then the poor guys are obsessing over what the hell they could have possibly said to offend them or turn them off so much with one message.

Ladies, let’s help the guys out a little to make them more motivated to court YOU, notice their efforts when they do put them out, and have the courtesy to at least tell them no thank you if you don’t want to go out with someone. But then again, why did you swipe right on him if you weren’t interested in him enough to go out with him??

And this goes for guys too – let’s stop the swiping and disappearing act altogether if we want actual relationships to be created in 2017.

#3: Guys, can we please stop with the Sales Pitch of The Penis?

tinderPlease don’t whip out your penis on a first date, try to put her hand on your penis (does this really make girls swoon?), or send her a penis pic, or anything having to do with your penis for that matter, before or on the first date (at least).

I’ve talked to many, many women, and I still have yet to find one woman who this “works” for. This was probably a made up move by a guy. It’s not sexy, not engaging, and I think I can speak for most ladies that we’d like to see this “move” go in 2017.

#4: Let’s all not take 2 hours to text someone back, so that we can play “hard to get” and pretend like we’re too busy doing other exciting things to text back right away.

We all KNOW that everyone is by their phone, 24/7; we’re addicted to it, and studies have even shown that 95% of text messages are read within 3 minutes… So, the jig is up!

Can we all just respond to a text like normal people now without this annoying intentional waiting time to pretend like we’re more interesting than we really are? And then, not judge a person as “not having a life” if they do respond within a reasonable time?

#5: I’m sure I’ll get hated on for this, but this is a rant for the militant Feminists and Social Justice warriors who take every little thing way out of context, twist it into something dark and cry that it is offensive, “rapey,” sexist, or promoting non-consensuality.

Like the infamous Baby it’s cold Outside song that recently got ripped to pieces, or the public verbal lynching of comedian Steve Martin after he gave a sincere compliment to Carrie Fisher on Twitter, saying that she was beautiful, bright, and witty.

Baby it’s Cold Outside was a playful romantic duet written by a husband to his wife in 1944 for Pete’s sake. He’s a man who knows the lady he likes has to leave, and is doing his damnedest to get her to stay for just a few minutes more. (In 1944, it was not appropriate for an unmarried lady to stay the night at her man’s house) And if you listen to the original song, it is pretty clear that they BOTH are playfully and coyly dragging out the end of the night as long as they can. And I think most of us can agree that the “consensual remake” of the song released in December is soo un-romantic.).

What you’re doing is systematically murdering every last ounce of romance and natural desire toward women from men. And unjustly assuming that all men are vicious predators, plotting and scheming to trick and rape an unsuspecting girl. (And, let’s call a spade a spade – if you’re going to attack this innocent song from 1944, then what about pretty much every other song on the radio today that talks about “Bitches” and “Hoes” and other overt female degradation, like “You’s a Hoe” or “Blow my Whistle Baby?!”).

And then, these same women are complaining that guys aren’t romantic anymore, that “chivalry is dead” and are sad that guys don’t seem to show interest and pursue them enough anymore.

Some songs legitimately are “rapey,” and some comments made are legitimately demeaning, and feel free to make a case about those. But please don’t rip apart songs and people’s comments that were genuinely good-intentioned, because we are at the brink of silencing men so much that we can soon kiss any last shred of “romance” and genuine expressions of attraction and interest goodbye.

I don’t know about you, but I still like the art of romance and the little dance of seduction. And yes, as long as it’s “consensual.”

#6: Can we not lie about our weight or our heights anymore?

Women calling themselves “voluptuous” or “curvy” online but who are really massively overweight, or guys saying their 6’” when they’re really 5’6” , like really?! Once we see you, the jig is up, do you think we’re going to somehow hallucinate you as being massively thinner or taller? So, let’s just keep it honest.

#7: Guys who play “hard to get,” follow the “3-day” contact rule and intentionally hold back interest to try to get women to “chase” you.

I hate to break it to you, but most of the PUA (Pick-up Artistry) gurus are feeding you inaccurate information – Most self-respecting women don’t eagerly “chase” after guys who are showing them no interest.

A little mystery can be good and you don’t want to smother a woman, but trying to act apathetic toward a girl, hold back any compliments or indications that you like her, and deliberately acting like you don’t care is pretty lame and probably only going to lead to a stalemate, as most women’s guards will go up and they will feel the need to act elusive too.

Authenticity breeds more authenticity, and game-playing breed more game-playing.

#8: Women who complain of men “mansplaining” and “manspreading”

Again, I ask you, what is it that you’re trying to accomplish here? This to me is yet another weapon used to verbally castrate men of their innately masculine qualities and behaviors into submissive, asexual beings.

It is a masculine trait to want to contribute to people, and feel like their opinions and knowledge are valuable.

It makes them feel good, and with women now as powerful and self-sufficient as they are, touting that they “don’t need a man,” when a man gives you advice it’s usually coming from a benevolent place of them simply wanting some validation, or even hoping to impress you if they like you. Wow, is that so terrible for them to feel good and useful for a moment?

Most of the time they are not intentionally trying to condescend a woman, nor are they even aware of doing so. To add to that, most women innately want a man who displays intelligence, protectiveness, and who is helpful to us. …All things that men innately like doing.

why-women-reject-perfect-menSo why then are you trying to punish them for doing these things? And yes there is a line between “explaining” things in a helpful way, and intentionally condescending someone, but when you turn “mansplaining” into such a “thing” and it is a focus, it becomes dangerously subjective and the tendency will be for it to be misconstrued, favoring the female. (The fact that my spell-checker corrected these words because they are now in the dictionary should tell you something, Lol).

And again, these same women complain that they “can’t find a masculine man anymore” and that “men have become so feminine and wussy these days.” Well, I wonder why!

When you punish men for doing anything innately masculine, and they become so fearful of offending people, they stop acting like a man.

Imagine if men created a word for women crossing our legs in a feminine way, or made it an offense if our voices were too high because it annoyed them. Please consider the consequences to these damaging catchphrases and trendy SJW “movements.”

I for one do not wish to live in a world of neuter gender people, where men act exactly like women and women act exactly like men, and where our differences are no longer celebrated or desirable. It’s called Yin & Yang, not Yin & Yin, for a reason.

#9: If you say you want a committed relationship or marriage, check your actions and make sure they’re consistent with that.

Let’s stop this whole “catch and release” business. Today I see a vast majority of singles (especially women) who SAY they really want a marriage or committed relationship, but they’re actions totally contradict that.

Many women barely respond to texts or guys asking them out, keeping themselves so busy with their work that its like nailing jello to a tree for a guy to get her to “pencil him in” her busy schedule. And then there’s the common complaint I hear from guys: When a nice guy does come along and treat a girl well, and expresses his interest, she suddenly isn’t interested or makes up excuses as to why she can’t date anyone right now.

How about don’t put yourself on a dating site, go to a singles event, or say you want a relationship, if you’re not going to make any time for dating.

#10: Guys putting in zero effort, taking a girl on a coffee date or cocktail date, but then expecting sex as soon as possible.

Guys, let’s put a little more effort into pursuing a woman if you like her, and understand that sex comes when a woman feels comfortable and connected to you – not through pressuring her. It seems to be the common trend now that guys want to see how little effort they can put towards courting a woman (if you could call it “courting”), how little money they can spend, and how quickly they can get her into bed. And women may be enabling this as well if they’re letting it happen.

BONUS! Let’s all put a stop to Swiping while you’re on a date!

Do you know that according to a new study, at least 3 out of 5 people admit to swiping on online dating apps WHILE they’re on a date? Like when their date goes to the bathroom or steps out for a moment. This is a whole new level to the definition of “sleazy.” Can we all give the person we’re on a date with the respect they deserve and give them our full attention for just one or two hours of your life? C’mon people, can we at least pretend to be civilized? 🙂

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DeAnna Lorraine is an LA dating coach and relationship expert for men and women

 

 

 

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10 New Year’s Dating Resolutions YOU should make for 2013!

womens dating coach  Ah, It’s another New Year… Happy 2013! The New Year’s theme of personal growth and positive change is back around again. You may have done things this past year in your dating life that just didn’t work. You probably made some mistakes that you don’t want to repeat. But this year, decide to let THIS be the year you finally change and succeed! Based on lessons from clients and things I’ve found to be the biggest reasons for singles getting stuck in a dating rut and not finding success in their dating life, I’ve created a list of 10 essential resolutions for you to make in your dating life that if you truly stick to them and live out, will make a dramatic difference in your dating life and rapidly accelerate your search for finding and attracting The One. So make these resolutions this year; I want THIS to be the year that you fall in LOVE!

  1. Get ACTIVE. Put yourself OUT there. Stop making excuses for yourself to not truly put yourself out there. Just like anything that you’ve gotten in your life, getting the relationship you want or an active dating life takes you getting out of your house, going OUT there, and putting time, effort and commitment into it every week, a little bit a day. So starting NOW… like, TODAY (not tomorrow!), get off your butt – and head to places that put you in exposure to the opposite sex.
  1. Change your Mindset. Make Dating FUN! Stop focusing on all the lack of available men and opportunities there are and start focusing on all the abundance of great singles there are – and you’ll get more of it. Don’t dwell on how frustrating dating is or thinking of dating like some a chore and think of dating as a fun adventure, where anything can happen along the way. Relax and enjoy the journey, start doing things you enjoy and it will BE more enjoyable for you.
  1. Develop and execute a “Dating Strategy Plan” for attracting your ideal relationship. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Never is that saying more applicable – yet underused – than in your dating life. Would you start your own business without a Business Plan? Would you travel across the country without a Roadmap? What does YOUR Dating or  Relationship Attraction Plan look like?  Based on your requirements for what you’re looking for in a partner, map out specifically where you will go, what you will do and when you will go to find and meet people that fit those criteria. What groups or clubs or activities will you sign up for? What places, events or venues will you go to during the week, and when? Map it out, create an actual plan and schedule for your weeks, and print it out and hang it up where you will see it every day. Stay present to it daily. (*We create these personalized Relationship Attraction Plans as one of the first things we do in both my women’s 1-on-1 date coaching program and the Group Date Coaching program, and it is an important part of my proven recipe for finding your dream man)
  1. Decide what you want, make a list, and stick to it! Stop dating blindly. Don’t waste more than 3 dates on people that don’t fit your criteria. At this point, if you’re serious about finding “The One,” and you’re sick of dilly-dallying around, you need to figure out exactly what you want – as well as what you don’t want. What are your “Must-Have” criteria and requirements? What are your “Deal-Breakers?” You need to have more than just a flimsy mental list, take some time and write them out and make a list of at least 10 of these non-negotiable criteria for what you must have and won’t settle for. Then make a commitment to use these lists as your barometer that you compare all your dates to. Find out if they meet those requirements within the first 3 dates, and do not continue dating them past 3 dates if they don’t – no matter how hot, rich, or sexy they are!
  1. Practice ASSERTIVENESS. How are you going to get what you want if you don’t know how to ask for it? Make a commitment to state your requests, stop expecting people to read your mind or instinctively know what you want. Ask for what you want – with people you’re dating, in the bedroom, and in life.
  1. If you want a great partner, BECOME a great partner. You can’t expect to find and attract someone who has all these qualities that you personally do not have. In order to find the perfect partner for you, you need to make sure you have all the qualities yourself that you’re looking for in a partner and are living the life that you want, or are actively working towards it.
  1. Be the “CHOOSER. Stop getting into relationships just because someone wants you really bad or aggressively pursues you. it can be very flattering when someone wants us and pursues us, but if you’re not really feeling them or they don’t meet your criteria, remember that you have the ultimate choice and YOU need to be the choose them. Just because someone chooses you doesn’t mean you have to choose them.
  1. Flirt shamelessly til the cows come home! If you want to rapidly open the floodgates and fill your pipeline up with a continuous flow of prospects, you need to master the art of flirting. Become a master at flirting, Flirt often and everywhere. Smile whenever you talk to people, make lots of eye contact and be playful and teasing!
  1. Master your First Impression. First impressions MATTER. Within the first 3 seconds of a new encounter…we are judged and evaluated, and you make an indelible impression. Depending on your physical appearance and attire, will either intrigue and attract someone, or turn them off. So if 3 seconds can determine your fate on a date, and can make or break your opportunity with someone…wouldn’t it make sense to do everything you can to control YOUR first impression, and make sure that it’s the best impression possible. You never know who you will meet and when, so dress like you’re about to meet the love of your life every date and put your best face forward. Don’t cut corners. Paying attention to the details of your first impression – like having a clean car, ironing your clothes, spritzing on fragrance or doing your make-up at home rather than rushing in the car on your way over there – will pay off.
  1. Stop settling for the “BTN” Guy. You know, the “Better Than Nothing” relationship. everyone gets lonely from time to time when they’re single, but stop getting into relationships or dating people that you know are below your criteria or aren’t right for you just because they’re better than being alone. It may seem like a short-term fix for you but its far worse in the long run and ends up wasting far more time and emotional energy, and it will cause you more pain than good.

Let me know how it goes, and good luck out there!

Cheers to a VERY prosperous 2013 in both life AND love! 🙂

Your Bonafide Dating Agent, DeAnna xo

DeAnna Lorraine is an internationally-recognized and san diego dating coach and dating expert.

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Check out my new video ladies… Sorry I have to be a little tough-love on you girls sometimes, but I want you to discover your own potential blind spots because I want to see you successful in love! Share your comments and questions below. 🙂

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How I Discovered my Purpose as a Dating & Relationship Coach ~DeAnna’s Diaries


dating coachThe (“E! True Hollywood”) story of how my career helping people find love around the world was borne and what led me on my mission. 

I’m 8 years old and I live in a beautiful white, spacious, 3-story beach-house across from the ocean in Silver Strand Beach, California. I have 2 wonderful older brothers, a mom and dad whom I love, and a close circle of family friends. My parents have always put us in the best private Catholic schools and took us to Church every Sunday followed by dinner at one of our favorite restaurants.

We would spend weekends out on my dad’s boat, sailing to Catalina and the surrounding islands frequently, BBQ-ing while listening to my dad’s favorite tunes of Natalie Cole or The Doors (probably where I get my random taste in music from)….

My young and always vibrant mother makes a home-cooked meal every night, we take vacations to Hawaii and our lake house every year, and life is good! As far as I know, I don’t see anything wrong with my life or family, aside from some occasional fighting between my mom and dad and the bickering and wrestling matches with my brothers and I (they did a great job  of toughening me up!).

And then one day in the Summer, my dad takes a little trip for himself to Miami Florida, which is where he attended college and visits old friends there occasionally. For some reason he decided to take this trip by himself, but us kids didn’t think much of it at the time.

But then a few days later some really strange things started happening. One day while my father was gone, my mother suddenly invited her brother, my uncle, and some of her friends over to our house.

They started quickly and quietly cleaning out the house – and moving all of our furniture out. They were quiet and somber and didn’t offer us much explanation. I had no idea what was going on, but my brothers and I just watched as our big white house, formerly filled with our cozy furnishings, warmth and family memories rapidly grew more and more vacant and filled with cold air…

Within a few hours, our entire home was cleared out. You could hear our voices echo again through the high vaulted ceilings of the now empty house.

My mother didn’t say much to us, but just gabbed our hands and told us flatly that we had to leave, and that she would explain later. So we went with her. She drove us an hour in silence to our next destination, which turned out to be our grandparents house. They greeted us with loving arms and took us inside, and my brothers and I, my uncle , grandparents and my mom all sat around the living room together in silence…

Then my mother finally spoke, and she said the words that would change my life forever: “Guys… I have to tell you something… Your father is no longer going to be living with us anymore.”

What?? My jaw dropped in shock as tears started welling up in my eyes.

And then came the words that no child wants to hear:

“I’m sorry… Your Dad and I are getting a divorce.

And that was the day my life turned around.

The loving, complete family that I had and my life as I knew it was gone in one day!

My reality was no longer the same. Just like that, I went from having beautiful family holidays and Christmas’s with loads of presents under the tree, an excited mother cooking breakfast and a dad videotaping every special moment, to spending holidays in a divided home split up from my parents, alternating every other holiday with a different parent or having to painfully choose between them, being hours away from the other, and having a much quieter and emptier holiday.

I went from seeing my father every day and having dinner with him, to seeing him only a few times a year and living on opposite sides of the state.

Only 1 year later, my mother met someone new and remarried him. And again our life was shifted.

My brothers and I got uprooted from Los Angeles where we were born and raised, to Northern California where this new man that I was suddenly now supposed to call my Step-father lived, away from my father and all our family and friends that we grew up with.

But, we yet again managed to make the best of the situation and gradually adapted to this sudden new reality.

But then, after only a few years, just as we started finally coming around to this new life and step-father, the unthinkable happened again, believe it or not…

They started arguing… They started having problems…. The problems started getting worse… And they soon separated… And within 5 years, there I was, having to go through another divorce, all over again.

I found myself having deja vu with the same situation; only this time, I’m a little older and have a slightly thicker skin. I’ve got a little armor on now.; )

Many children in the same situation wind up going down the wrong path and living a pretty rocky life… But aside from some occasional teenage rebelliousness, I decided that I would NOT live my life as a victim of some sad circumstances. I would not be some troubled kid who people felt sorry for. I was determined to make something great out of myself.

I started seeing my life as an opportunity instead, and my purpose here became more and more clear.

And fast-forward to the present, here I am now today. Without proceeding to continue through my entire life story (that’s for my book!), I ultimately turned out okay obviously, with maybe some light war wounds and minimal scratches, I am complete with all the happenings, twists and turns in my life. This aint’ no sob story. I was fortunate enough to have parents and a family that, despite the circumstances, were always very loving and supportive of me and raised me well, and so I made it through the woods pretty healthy and happy. I’ve gotten completion with my parents and the divorces years ago and I  don’t hold any resentment towards them or any of the events in my life, because they’ve made me a lot stronger and wiser of a person and being the eternal optimist that I am, managed to turn the events of my life into something very positive.

For a long time while growing up through these divorces and all the negative ripple effects that came along with them, I had a lot of underlying feelings of guilt and responsibility in my parents’ divorce; I used to always feel like their marriage could have somehow been saved – I felt like if they just tried harder, went to therapy, communicated better, or explored different solutions then they could have solved their issues and prevented their divorce.

And even at a very young age I always had a strong sense of personal power and a gift for communicating and mediating. So as a little girl I was haunted a lot by regret, thinking that if I was just more aware of the problems that were going on between my parents at the time, if I maybe stepped in more and had better tools and knowledge of relationships at that time, I could have somehow ‘saved’ them and kept them together, happily married and continued our lives as a whole and complete family. Sometimes I would fantasize about this happening and how I could have helped them.

But whether I as a little 8-year old girl could have really saved my parents’ marriage or not, or how logical those Superwoman-esque thoughts really were, they were very real for me.

And thus, my career was borne.

I wasn’t able to save my own parents’ relationship, so I was going to learn how to save everyone else’s instead! My parents’ relationship didn’t work out, so I was going to make sure MY relationship did, so I can have the happy, fairy-tale marriage and family that I never got to fully have.

I declared it as my life’s mission to learn how to prevent these terrible things we call divorces all over the world. I never wanted anyone I cared about to have to go through a divorce, and I never, ever wanted to go through one myself… I would make damn sure of that!

I became fascinated with relationships and psychology, increasingly determined to figure out’ all the secrets and ‘keys’ to create successful relationships that work and last for life. I was always researching and reading all the relationship, dating and attraction books and studies that I could get my hands on. And I excitedly took this mission on!

I became the unofficial love ‘coach’ and adviser to my mother, my friends and classmates, and my brothers and all their (cute) friends, advising them on everything from helping them land the girl or guy they’ve been crushing on, to coaching them through their relationship issues, or helping them heal their broken hearts. It didn’t matter who I was counseling or whether they were younger or older than me, my wisdom seemed to transcend any age or gender gap.

As more and more relationships around me crumbled and divorces started becoming the norm among my family and friends, I was obsessed with discovering the secrets to having a relationship that beat the odds of divorce and stood through all the tests of life. Not only for myself, but for everyone around me. I wanted everyone to be able to have the lasting, fairy-tale marriage,  including myself.

Through my learning and development during the years, I seem to have unleashed a profound intuition – or what I came to call my “6th Sense” – for being able to talk to people and quickly read and understand their relationships and dating circumstances very accurately…. Sort of like how a Psychic reads your fortune, except for my psychic-ness seems to be specific to the area of people’s dating and relationships! Bizarre. (Well I certainly didn’t get the gift of Athleticism, so I guess this was my compensation. Lol).

I became very attuned with the energy and ‘heartbeat’ of a couples’ relationship.

Just by looking at a couple or being in their presence for a few minutes I could tell if they were having problems, if they had just been fighting, making love, if they were a compatible couple or not, and how long they would last. Just by talking with someone for a few minutes I could get a very accurate read on them, and understand intimately what the source of their problems were between the opposite sex or their partner, and what they needed to do to fix it. And as I continued acquiring my own relationships and dating experiences, they continued to add more layers of depth to my knowledge and kept refining my relationship psychic-ness.

Along with my study of relationships and love I studied all the components that go along with it in every stage, especially the whole world of dating, attraction, male and female psychology, sex, and social dynamics. Because one needs to understand and master the ‘dating phase’ first before they can master the ‘relationship phase.’ But even before that… There is one more phase that one must work on and master…

I came to a profound realization that: It all starts, and ends, with YOU!

All of the things that happen within dating and relationships, the level of success or failure of our experiences, is all entirely dictated and influenced by YOU.

It may sound pretty obvious and simplistic, but it’s actually pretty profound and if everyone really grasped this, then there would be much more successful and lasting relationships…

Because what this means is that we have a lot of work to do on ourselves, first! There’s a lot of personal responsibility one needs to take on if they want to find true and  lasting love with the right partner.

See most people look outside themselves to try to find greater happiness and love, or a better relationship. They keep searching for some ONE else or some THING else out there to ‘complete’ them or to make themselves happier or more confident. But YOU are actually at the source of everything that you want, and you’ve got to put some work into being the best version of YOURSELF first in order for you to attract the best relationship (and life) for you.

I realized that we as individuals need to be much more self-aware of who we are and what we WANT for relationships and our lives. And we need to be much more intentional and conscious in our efforts of finding ‘The One,’ and in the dating process along the way. If we keep going about dating and finding the right one blindly, haphazardly or with minimal awareness of what we’re doing, we will keep ending up in the wrong relationships, failed marriages and lots of mistakes and heartaches.

Our society has CHANGED, and continues to change rapidly… We want different things now and we have different (and much higher!) expectations and criteria for what we want in a partner, relationship and marriage than we did 50 years ago.

And along with our changing expectations, dramatically shifting gender roles and the climbing divorce rate, the dating scene also started changing rapidly and becoming very different and confusing for many people, especially with the advent of the Internet, Online Dating and new technologies. It’s really become a dating jungle out there!

In the last 10 years especially, people have been scrambling for help and answers! There has been a dire need for coaching and education in this area to guide people through all this craziness.

There is so much negativity and chaos going on in the world today as we’ve been rapidly evolving, so much breaking up and divorces, unhappy marriages and relationships, and people who are just existing in the world single and lonely or living unhappy, unfulfilling lives. People seem to have forgotten what life is all about – and what real LOVE is.

I believe it is everyone’s birthright to find true love in their lives and live a life that they really love. And that’s what I believe I was put on this planet to help people do. I know very well now that there’s a reason why I’ve gone through all the experiences I have, and over the years I’ve actually become truly grateful for it because all those experiences have shaped me into the person that I am today and have paved the path for my real purpose here. It’s as if the Universe already mapped out this plan for me and signed me up for this role way before I even arrived here. And the more I’ve grown into this position, with every year that passes I’ve seen the need for this work grow more and more. That’s why I’ve dedicated my life’s work to making a real, positive impact in this area.

What I’ve been hard but happily at work on in the last 10 years is creating extraordinary relationships and marriages that WORK and that LAST, all over the world. Marriages that actually BEAT the odds of divorce. I’m working on connecting men and women more intimately and bringing greater harmony, understanding and communication between the sexes, so we can create more successful and loving relationships with each other more readily. And I’m helping to make it possible for as many people as I can to find the love of their lives, AND live a life that they truly LOVE. A life that is passionate, delicious and fulfilling! Not a life that they are merely “existing” in and bored with.

When people are in love, when they are in happy, fulfilling relationships that work – they are more productive, more peaceful, more loving to those around them and live a better overall quality of life.

People who are in great relationships are actually a more positive contribution to society. And on the contrary, people who are alone and lonely, or who are stuck in unhappy, unfulfilling relationships or marriages that don’t work are actually a negative contribution to society on the whole, and tend to be depressed, less productive in their jobs, unfriendly to people, and more likely to do destructive things to society and to other people throughout their lives.

Imagine what it would be like if YOU and everyone around you were in loving, happy relationships??

The world would be a pretty different place!

So very long story short, that right there is what I’m up to and what I’m passionate about, and you can bet that I’ll be doing this till I’m in the grave. I’m always going to be doing this because this is much more than a job for me – it’s my passion and it’s personal, and my fire for it will always keep burning. Every new relationship I create, every person’s life that I help transform, and every new marriage that I help save reignites it.

I look forward to waking up every day and it’s an honor to do the work that I do! Thank you 🙂

In Love & Success, DeAnna xo

Your Relationship and Dating Coach

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