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DeAnna Featured in DatingAdvice.com as Leading Dating Coach!

I am so thridatingadvicelled and honored that my friends over at DatingAdvice.com, “The Authority on all Things Dating,” chose to interview me and feature me as one of the world’s leading Dating Coaches! What a great feature they wrote that goes in-depth into my unique methods of coaching and how I got into this work years ago. Check out the full article here, and feel free to share it with your friends! http://www.datingadvice.com/for-men/deanna-lorraine-holistic-coaching-for-life-and-love 

 

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What Guys REALLY Mean when they Say they “Don’t Want to Commit” to you

I’m sure you’ve wondered how men really come to the decision that you’re ‘The One’… or that they want to commit to you…

And I’m sure you’ve wondered why the hell a guy will tell you he’s “Not ready for a commitment right now,” and what that really means.

dating coach deanna lorraineYou’ve probably also wondered WHY guys commit to some women, but not others.  

Well, unlike what most women think, its usually NOT because they CAN’T commit at all…. Or that they’re circumstances, like their work or their schedule, won’t allow them to commit to you…

What guys actually mean when they say this is… They are able to commit, but they don’t just don’t want to Commit to YOU.

Eek. Sorry to be the bearer of the brutally honest truth, but its true…

For a number of both emotional and logical reasons, they are:

  • a) Not FEELING strongly attracted enough, and
  • b) Have determined that you are not “High Value” enough and don’t perceive you as “Long-Term Relationship/Wife Material.”

So, they may continue to string you along though, especially if they’re getting any other kind “benefits” from you – like sex, or money, or getting their ego stroked by your attention.

But, understand that they are most likely looking around on the side for someone they think is better, and will never actually commit to you. They will probably just continue to string you along and break your heart.

Don’t try to give them excuses like “Oh, he’s just really really busy with his work right now, and that’s why he can’t commit to me right now.”

dating coach deanna lorraineNope! I’m sorry to say this, but no matter how busy a man is, he will still happily commit to a woman and make time for her if he’s really into her and “feeling” it. So don’t buy that as an excuse if you hear that.

If a guy tells you that they “don’t want a commitment” or aren’t ready for one, believe them! Don’t make the mistake that so many women do of hanging in their thinking you can “change their mind,” or change them from a player to a committed man.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to “win him over” by doing lots of nice things for him, giving him sex whenever he wants it, seeing him at his convenience even if he’s not having proper dates with you. (God forbid) loaning him money, or doing other nice things thinking that if he just continues to see how amazing, sweet, and giving you are, or if he just sees how great you are in bed, that he’ll eventually change his mind and commit to you.

This rarely, if ever, will happen.

Also, another rule of thumb about men is that if a guy feels really strongly about a girl, HE will be the first one to bring up the “DTR” (“Define The Relationship”) Talk!

He will come to YOU and ask you about a commitment – You, as the woman, shouldn’t be the one trying to bring up the commitment talks to him. If you’ve been going after him for a commitment, that’s a red flag in itself.

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When a guy really is into a girl, he does NOT want to share her with any other guy; He will want to see her as much as possible and want her all to himself!

Typically, a guy will NOT commit to a girl and will put them in the “Temporary girl” category, if they:

  • Don’t feel a deeper emotional connection with you and if the connection is just physical/sexual
  • If they don’t find you attractive and presentable enough to be proud of you, and to show you off publicly. (This is why many women who are overweight may often fall into this trap of being the “Temporary girl” who guys may sleep with and string along, but don’t want to commit to.)
  • Perceive you as having “Low Value.” Women telegraph either “High Value” or “Low Value” to men pretty quickly, through various signals, like how they communicate and the things they say and talk about, how they carry themselves, how they dress, how they take care of themselves, how they express their emotions, what kind of a life, family and friends they have. Women who communicate a lot of insecurities, self-doubts, fears, complaints, and other negative emotions, come across as “Low Value” to most men, and most men will be turned off by this and reticent to commit to these women.
  • If she is one-dimensional, and come across as dull or boring.

On the contrast, these are some of the primary factors that make most men WANT to commit to a girl, and desire her greatly:

  • If they have a strong physical, sexual, AND emotional connection with her.
  • If they are proud of the way she looks and carries herself, and proud to “show her off” publicly. She has a special “spark” about her, an “IT Factor” that draws people in.
  • If she comes across as having “High Value.” A woman projects “High Value” by the way she communicates and carries herself; She is engaging in the way she talks to him and his friends, she exudes confidence and self-love, femininity, and sex appeal.
  • She has a high level of “emotional fitness” – i.e., she handles her emotions well and for the most part is positive, happy, fun, centered, and easy-going.
  • She is multi-dimensional, and interesting.

dating coach deanna lorraineAcross the board, in all my interviews and coaching sessions with guys of all ages including my own dating experiences, these are the top factors that men state are the most attractive in women and that trigger intense passionate feelings and desire in them to commit to these women.

So, if a guy you’ve been seeing has been “on the fence” about you for a while and says he does not want to commit to you yet, then I advise you to either get out of that relationship, knowing that his perception has probably already been set, and try again with someone new.

Or, take your energy and efforts off of HIM and put those efforts into making certain changes in YOURSELF to develop or strengthen the qualities I listed above to make yourself more desirable, “High Value” and irresistibly commitment-worthy.

Then, see if things start turning around and he begins pursuing YOU!

**Want to discover the real reasons WHY men have not been committing to YOU, and what you can do about it to change your results with men? Do you want to know if men see you as “High Value,” marriage-material, or as a “Low-Value,” replaceable girl that they want to just string along? Find out now and learn what to do to break your pattern and start attracting amazing men who adore you and can’t wait to commit to you, by going through my proven 3-Step Dating Diagnostic & Love Makeover process today! Click below for full details & to begin.

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How Men Think DIFFERENTLY about Dates than Women!

You know what most women don’t realize? Well for one, that men and women are DIFFERENT! Yes, surprise surprise – guys are different than us.

dating coach deanna lorraineThey are not just “hairier” versions of us women. Believe me, I grew up around a house full of brothers and all their rowdy friends, and boy do they think differently and talk differently than us gals!

It was sure a blessing in disguise though that I essentially got to be a fly on the wall in the boys’ locker room all my life, which I owe a lot of my ability to understand guys very intimately and attract them well.

And, teach women how to do that. So getting into just one specific area of how guys are different than women, are how they think about dates.

Guys go into dates, think about dates differently, and what they are thinking ON the date is usually quite different than what women are thinking too!

You must understand these differences to help you see the man’s perspective so you can be more successful with connecting with them and getting them to pursue you.

  • #1. Guys are first thinking about SEX. Like it or hate it, they are first and foremost thinking, “Am I attracted to her? Do I want to have sex with her?” And beyond any thinking of thoughts even, they are FEELING something “down there,” or they’re not.

Sorry, but it’s the naked truth. No pun intended lol.

Boys will be boys. They are wired a certain way and have pieces of equipment, and it’s either going to go UP… or stay down and not respond.

They are firstly going with their “other” head, and following THAT head first. If they don’t’ even feel attracted to you (aka they want to have sex with you), then they won’t even bother seeing you again after a first date to see if anything else develops.

You must know that guys are attracted physically first, and you must make a guy feel sexually attracted to you, right from the first moment he sees you.

  • #2: Guys are not typically thinking long-term… Yet. They are not planning for the future, imagining walking hand-in-hand with you, or even thinking much about next weekend yet. Guys are much more in the here-and-now, present moment than women are.

Aside from a feeling of sexual attraction to you, they are either feeling GOOD in your presence, or not good or neutral. They are either having FUN with you, and feeling comfortable with you, and genuinely enjoying being with you and talking to you…. Or they are feeling bored or uncomfortable.

Has the date been “easy” with her, meaning easy to talk to, you are open and responsive, and engaging? Or has the date been difficult – difficult to get engaging conversations going, difficult for you to warm up to him, etc.

Most girls do not realize this, and they mistakenly believe that the guy will take the time to get to know her, and give her a few dates, and see if she has the potential and qualities to be long-term girlfriend material. But this isn’t true.

dating coach deanna lorraineIf they aren’t FEELING good in your presence – aka, you’re not generating positive emotions in him, then he isn’t going to stick around to see if you have other “positive qualities” or a “great heart” or not.

Even though you logically may have good qualities, men don’t decide to commit to a girl or pursue her based on “logical” reasons. They are just pulled to keep seeing her based on their feelings. Or, not, if neutral or negative feelings were created.

A lot of women are BORING on their dates. They either don’t talk much, expecting to just show up and have the man “entertain” them and impress them, or the stuff they talk about is boring to guys and they’re not engaging to they guy in their body language and energy.

So, a guy leaves the date thinking, “Eh, she was nice. But she just had no “spark” about her. No “WOW factor.” Or, “I’m just not feeling it.” This is what guys say all the time.

She may very well be a physically attractive woman, or even have really great qualities on paper and be super intelligent with a great career or very kind, but if a man isn’t feeling it then he’s just not going to feel any desire to call and see you again.

Remember that now, even more so than before, there is so much competition now, unfortunately for us women. Because of new advances like Tinder and online dating sites, guys have so many options now, and you can bet that any guy you are talking to, is probably also talking to two or three other girls at the moment too.

So a girl who he didn’t feel 1) sexually attracted to and 2) an emotional spark or positive, excited feelings with, is not even going to be on his radar.

Aka, you’re not going to be on his thoughts during the day. And why should he make the effort to set up another day with you, and spend his money, if he isn’t feeling it? He’s not – he’s going to try another option.

And you know if you are in this space with a guy if he isn’t texting you or calling you. Or, if he isn’t setting up a next date within a week or two the latest.

A Good Rule of Thumb

If a guy is feeling it with a girl and attracted to her, he will be contacting her within 3 days of the date, max! And he will want to see her again as soon as possible. If a guy waits more than a week to see you again, and this is a common theme and his reason for waiting doesn’t have to do with traveling or emergencies, then he’s either just not that into you – or he’s got another woman and you’re the side-girl.

Sorry, but you’ve gotta hear the truth!

PSS: A few other Things Guys do:

  • If guys are feeling bored on the date with you, or not feeling good enough about you to see potential with you, he may then try to just get you drunk and sleep with you that night. Because in a guy’s mind, he figures “Well if I’m not going to see her again anyways, I might as well at least get laid for the night.”
  • So if a guy seems like he’s trying really hard to move quickly and take you back to his place or your place that night, this is what’s going on most likely. It does NOT mean he likes you though – For guys, they don’t have to “like” a girl in order to sleep with them. AND, he probably isn’t planning on calling you afterward either. So don’t fall for it!

**Want to discover the real reasons WHY men have not been committing to YOU, and what you can do about it to change your results with men? Do you want to know if men see you as “High Value,” marriage-material, or as a “Low-Value,” replaceable girl that they want to just string along? Find out now and learn what to do to break your pattern and start attracting amazing men who adore you and can’t wait to commit to you, by going through my proven 3-Step Dating Diagnostic & Love Makeover process today! Click below for full details & to begin.

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What you Can Learn from The Bachelor about How Women Sabotage their new Relationships!

So I’m watching my guilty pleasure the other night, The Bachelor (yeah, yeah, I only watch a few “Reality” shows like this for education and analyzing purposes only!).

And I’m watching as this season’s studly Bachelor, Ben Higgins, navigates his way through trying to get to know the plethora of single ladies vying for his heart, one painful conversation at a time.

I love seeing how all these poor women go about trying to impress him and compete for his attention – it’s like a trainwreck I can’t help but watch.

But the show, as silly and dramatic as it can be sometimes, does help to illuminate some very real patterns, issues and challenges that pop up for people when they are dating and entering relationships.

The fact that the show is so fast-paced and intense magnifies the sub-conscious issues that lie beneath the surface of so many single people that keep them sabotaging their relationships.

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The #1 Way Women Kill a Guy’s Attraction & Interest!

Hey Ladies, do you ever wonder what you may be doing wrong with guys that push them away? How do you get a guy you like to want to commit to you? Watch my new video on this dating mistake 90% of women make and learn how you may be unknowingly turning good guys off.
Please share if you find valuable, and share your thoughts! Good luck ladies 🙂

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